Finding Out What Type of Engagement Ring Your Significant Other Wants

If you’ve made the decision that you and your significant other are ready to take the next step in your relationship, then it’s important that you take the time to find out what type of ring they want (don’t even bother asking do men wear engagement rings — the answer is yes!)! Sometimes, it’s as simple as asking them. But, there’s a chance your significant other wants you to surprise them. And, as much as they might say it doesn’t matter because it’s coming from you, they probably have some likes and dislikes about rings. Here’s how you can find out what type of ring your significant other wants!

Consider Just Asking Them

Seriously, consider just asking them. Even if they insist it doesn’t matter, sit down with them and show them different ring styles. They will give you ideas based on their body language and facial expressions. You don’t have to make them pick a ring right at that moment, but consider showing them rings with different shaped diamonds or settings in order to gauge their interests. Some people like one particular type of stone, while others detest certain settings. Unless you show your significant other the choices, you won’t really know what they like. 

Solicit Their Friends and Family

Chances are, your significant other has chatted with friends and family about their likes and dislikes when it comes to jewelry. Whether it’s been on an outing for their friend or maybe they all saw a commercial together (or maybe your significant other has a secret Pinterest board they keep denying exists…), your significant other’s friends and families are the best resources for finding out what type of ring your partner wants. Your partner’s best friend can even go with you to help you pick the ring out! 

Learn the Terms

Ring buying is a serious business. There are a variety of terms, including stone shapes and setting styles that can determine what type of ring you get for your significant other. Here are some of the most common, also referred to as the 4Cs by the Gemological Institute of America:

  • Carat: This is the weight of the diamond. The larger the carat, the more expensive the diamond. 
  • Clarity: Clarity refers to how many blemishes the diamond has (or doesn’t). The clearer the diamond, the most expensive it is. The range for clarity of a diamond starts at I (the least clear) to FL (short for flawless). Most diamonds are in the mid-range of clarity, with only the rarest of diamonds without any flaws.
  • Round: Round cut diamonds are traditional and timeless. A simple circle, they are often accentuated with two stones on either side of the center (a three-stone setting) or they stand alone (a solitaire). If your significant other prefers tradition over all, a round cut diamond is the way to go.
  • Princess Cut: A princess cut diamond is one that’s square in shape. It has a sharp look to it, mainly because of the corners in place on the diamond. 
  • Oval: A round and elongated diamond is the oval shape. Typically seen in a halo setting (where smaller diamonds are set around the center diamond), oval diamond rings are a pretty popular choice, especially for those who like the vintage look of an oval diamond. 
  • Marquise: A shape worthy of royalty, Marquise cut diamonds are not as popular as in years past, but recent trends have Marquise diamonds rising in popularity again. This is mainly through the East-West Marquise diamond, where the diamond is set horizontally instead of vertically. This diamond cut is perfect for those whose significant others are adventurous and eccentric. 
  • Cushion: A cushion cut diamond is one that looks basically like a rounded square. Rather than the sharp edges of a Princess Cut diamond, a cushion cut diamond looks almost like a pillow. There are elongated versions of the cushion cut diamond, with a sort of squared oval shape. Cushion cut diamonds are typically popular amongst celebrities, so it’s perfect for the significant other who you think is a complete star.
  • Emerald: Emerald cut diamonds are not very common. Only those with specific types of styles enjoy emerald cut diamonds. Their rectangular shape makes for a unique ring, but you’ll know easily whether or not it’s something that your partner would want immediately upon seeing it. 
  • Color: Because real diamonds are made naturally (though you’re certainly welcome to get your partner a lab-created diamond!), they come in a range of colors. Now, these colors aren’t green or pink or blue, but rather the tint that shows when light is pushed through the diamond. The less tint a diamond has, the more valuable it is. Diamonds with a colorless tint are between the D-F range, and most diamonds are in the “near colorless” (G-J) or “faint” (K-M) ranges. 

Together, these four categories make up the diamonds found all around the world. No diamond is alike, either. Each one can come in a range of color, clarity and carats. Remember: Bigger isn’t always better. Just because something has a high carat weight doesn’t mean it’s the clearest or has the lowest color. It’s important to look at the diamond as a whole before you make a decision. 

Consider Your Partner’s Style 

Your partner has a style that’s as unique as they are. Pay attention to their style and the way they dress. Do they prefer to dress casually? Or, maybe they like to try out unique patterns or color combinations. Take a look at the jewelry in their current rotation. What pieces do they typically wear? Sneaking a glance at their jewelry box is also a good way to figure out what size ring to get. After measuring their current rings, use a ring size chart to ensure that you get the correct size for their engagement ring!