Mother of the bride survival guide

As the mother of the bride, you might feel an awful lot of responsibility to give your daughter the wedding of her dreams not only on the big day itself but in the weeks, months or even years running up to the event. Of course, all mums will be given different roles from organising the catering to helping select a wedding band from the likes of 77diamonds, but if your duties are quite considerable here’s how to survive this pressurised role.

  1. Keep the bride and groom onside

No matter how much you want to voice your opinions, being a pushy, interfering and overly dominate mother of the bride is not advisable. This will only upset the loved up couple, so try to contain your excitement and express your views in a constructive, positive and proactive way. What’s more, remember that the bride and groom have the final say, so even if you don’t like one of their plans it might be better to keep your thoughts to yourself.

  1. Leave plenty of time for dress shopping

There’s a high chance your daughter will want you to go wedding dress shopping with her. This is often an emotional, sentimental and highly rewarding experience that can bring the two of you closer together, but whatever you do, don’t leave it all to the last minute. While some brides fall in love with the first dress they see, others take a lot longer to find the frock of their dreams, so ensure there’s plenty of time for your daughter to suss out what’s available.

Moreover, don’t forget that many dresses need adjusting, so try to arrange multiple dress fittings, particularly if your daughter is trying to lose weight as many brides do for their wedding day. And if you’re panicking about it all going wrong, check out the wedding dress shopping tips online to ensure everything goes as smoothly as possible.

  1. Choose your own outfit carefully

With the bride’s dress off your mind, you can now concentrate on finding your outfit – and whatever you do, don’t wear white. This is one of the many wedding fashion rules you should follow as traditionally only the bride should wear this colour in order to stand out from the crowd. There are many different things you can wear from trouser suits and dresses to skirt and top combinations but it’s wise to confer with the groom’s mother to ensure you don’t wear the same thing. You should also make sure your outfit fits with the wedding’s colour scheme to avoid a distasteful clash and check you’re not wearing something similar to the bridesmaids.

  1. Try to be supportive and useful

Most brides get emotional at some point during the lead up to the wedding. Some might even wonder if they’re doing the right thing – the key is to expect this. Knowing your daughter might show some pre-wedding nerves will help you prepare for such a situation and enable you to deal with it better. No matter what she reveals, always stay calm and talk things through with her sensibly and rationally. She’s probably just flustered and scared about what lies ahead but it’s always good to lend a shoulder to cry on and to share some comforting words.

Being the mother of the bride isn’t easy, but hopefully the above guide will help you juggle your emotions and responsibilities.